The Best Man Holiday: Gift to all generations

Casey Thomas | 12/2/2013, 1:31 a.m.
I don’t consider myself to be a film critic, nor do I go out and see every movie that comes ...
Casey Thomas

I don’t consider myself to be a film critic, nor do I go out and see every movie that comes out. However, this particular film has special significance for me. When the original movie, The Best Man, came out 15 years ago I was in my mid-20, and was just beginning my career in education. I could relate to every character in some way or another because I either knew someone or I at one point in time carried some of their personality traits.

Many people in my generation have been counting the days until the movie hits theaters. There were girlfriends who went to see the film together. There were married couples who were just dating or may have been dating someone else when the original film debuted.

The film starts off by showing how each of the characters’ lives have changed over the years. It shows how they have grown and how their friendships have continued to flourish. Each of them have become successful in their own way. From a professional football player to a marketing genius, they each reflect the role of a Black professional in today’s time.

It’s not so important what career they have chosen as much as how they continue to rely on one another for friendship. We all know good friends are hard to find, and when you can find them that relationship is tested over time.

Without giving away too much from the movie, it is interesting to see how Christmas is an important time of the year for family and friends. How oftentimes, we put our career in front of those things that matter the most to us. Until we are faced with challenges, we have a tendency to forget how important spending time with those we love is. That’s why so many people spend the holiday season reconnecting with friends and refocusing on family.

There are many lessons from the film that we can all relate to. In marriage, you have to be honest with one another, even when it hurts. It’s better for your spouse to hear something from you when things are going wrong than from someone else. That same thing is true in friendship; something that can truly be innocent can look like it’s mean-spirited.

Make sure you take the time to go see this film and talk about it with your spouse or your closest friends. Each lesson shows us how vulnerable we can be and how important it is to have people who you can confide in. As the song, Lean on Me, says, “we all need somebody to lean on.”