Christians and online dating

DIANE XAVIER | 9/7/2015, 9:09 a.m.
Looking for love? Over half of the U.S. population is single, according to the latest U.S. Census data of 2012. ...
From left: Potter’s House Associate Pastor Bonne Moon, Michael Egan, CEO of ChristianMingle.com, and Jordi Bostock, author of Single on Purpose. Diane Xavier

The Dallas Examiner

Looking for love? Over half of the U.S. population is single, according to the latest U.S. Census data of 2012.

With so many eligible bachelors and bachelorettes available in this modern world, people are trying a variety of ways to find a mate, including the virtual world or online dating.

For many Christians, the question has been whether or not finding love online is moral.

At the 2015 MegaFest, this topic was explored during a seminar called Finding Love Online, presented by ChristianMingle.com, an online Christian dating website. The event was held on Aug. 20 at the Dallas Convention Center and the Potter’s House Associate Pastor Bonne Moon moderated the forum. Guest panelists included Michael Egan, CEO of ChristianMingle.com, and Jordi Bostock, an entrepreneur and author of Single on Purpose.

Bonne opened the talk by asking the panelists if it was okay for a Christian man or woman with ethics to go online in order to find a mate.

Bostock responded with a firm “no.”

“My perspective is that when it comes to Christian dating, there is no dating in the Bible,” she said. “Nowhere in the Bible do you find dating and what has happened to Christian women is that we have forgotten our identity and have forgotten that we are royalty, we are queens. Can you imagine the Queen of England before she became queen, looking for a date on ChristianMingle.com? So, it is the same for you. You should not be on there looking for a date. I am all for mingling, but the Bible gives us instructions on what we need to do.”

Bostock believes that finding your husband or wife should be a natural progression.

“Unmarried women care for the things of the Lord and devote their self, body and spirit,” she said. “If you pursue that, then God positions you for your purpose. There is a difference between dating and mingling. Everything that we see in the natural world began in the spiritual realm and I believe that whoever your husband or wife is already exists. They just have to be manifested. So the Bible tells us to watch and you should just be friendly and let things happen naturally.”

Unlike Bostock’s views, Egan believes the Internet has opened up many opportunities for people to find love.

“I think online dating is very much like the real world,” Egan said. “The beauty of going online is that you can find others who you may not run into at your local grocery store. We have the opportunity to meet others that share your values, faith and what is important to you. Mingling is one part of that.”

Egan said online dating is about meeting people and getting to know people.

“Online dating allows you access to more individuals than what you might find walking down the street,” he said.

Bostock said dating websites are great tools, and there are specific ways to approach using them.

“God gives us specific ways to approach things and when we look at relationships, they are different for believers and how we should focus on it as opposed to the world,” Bostock said.