Anatomy of a queen, part I: The mentality of royalty
DENISHA MCKNIGHT | 4/23/2018, 6:13 p.m.
The Dallas Examiner
“Every woman is a queen,” according to a quote from actress Queen Latifah, although some may still be in a search to find their inner royalty.
To aid in this quest, Quinnie Nicholas, founder of Queenish Professional Women’s Club, held a Woman’s Empowerment Expo at the Lancaster Grand Hall Ballroom, March 24, dedicated to teaching local women the rites of passage to becoming a queen – or various trials that women must overcome – that has added an extra stone or stones to her crown. The event focused on women’s health, education, careers, beauty, wealth and fashion.
Speaker Kevin Cadwell compared the anatomy of a queen to the biological make up of a queen bee, stating that before females are able to look like a queen, she must discover her majestic features from the inside.
“The bee is such an interesting insect [and] we are going to focus on three parts: the head, thorax and abdomen,” he said.
Taking a look first at the mind, he explained that a queen mentality is essential in becoming a woman. A tainted mindset may keep a possible queen, and even her peers, from recognizing her eminence.
“If you think like a queen, then you can be that queenish individual,” he said. “You can be that individual that everybody wants to be like.”
He went on to explain that a cloudy idea of self could lead to an overall negative aura that affects a queen and how she treats her royal circle.
“You have to get clear about what’s in your world right now and pay attention to the truth of that,” added speaker Antonio Wingfield, a local fashion designer.
A strong mind is a powerful shield that is necessary when confronting negativity, Wingfield pointed out, expanding on his statement that bashing others and conforming to others idea of beauty may mentally affect how someone values themself.
At the same time, he encouraged the women to not bring that negativity to other women or to take part in it.
“We have to stop generalizing each other in the negative because that is an equation,” he said. “You are never the exception to someone’s equation. People like to believe they’re the exception when they hear somebody talking about someone else. You have to stop and listen to this equation. It is so critical because in their world they are telling you what is coming to you.”
Aside from negative comments, Caldwell stated that failure is another obstacle to tackle, explaining that the setback should be embraced rather than shunned.
“A queen is not afraid to fail,” Caldwell declared. “Many people have this idea that failure is a bad thing but it really isn’t. Failure is a process of success. When Oprah looks at things that don’t meet her expectation or her expected outcome she doesn’t say, ‘I failed.’ She says, ‘I learned my lesson.’”
“The best thing you can ever do is to learn how to understand or interpret what you’re experiencing. You define the things that happen in your life. Are you giving the proper definition to things you’ve had in life?”
He went on to say that there must be a balance between translating to oneself each lesson learned and putting that lesson into action in order to ensure a more successful outcome in the future.
A negative translation or failure to put the lesson into action could be dangerous to a woman’s career goals.
“You can’t spend your life being a ‘wantpreneur,’” the speaker advised. “Manifest what you see in your head into your hands.”
Caldwell concluded by telling the all-female audience not to be afraid to go with their gut feeling.
“Resistance will come anytime you get ready to improve your life,” he said. “Never be afraid of any type of progress.”