Why the sexually assaulted keep quiet
SUSAN K. SMITH | 10/1/2018, 2:18 p.m.
Crazy Faith Ministries
The president of this nation went on the attack against Dr. Christine Blasey Ford, the woman who has accused U.S. Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh of sexually assaulting her when they were both teens.
In one of his infamous tweets, the president said that if the attack on her was as bad as she described, he was sure that a police report would have been filed immediately. In essence, he is suggesting that she is making the whole thing up.
His attack shows that he is absolutely ignorant about how the world works. Neither women nor men who are sexually assaulted come forward immediately. Consider the adults who were sexually assaulted by priests when they were children; they are only now coming forward, and for some of them it was as long as 40 years ago that they were assaulted.
It is embarrassing to be assaulted sexually, and frightening, in that the one who has assaulted someone is often one who has a fair amount of power. That person can be a father or uncle, a priest or a pastor, a police officer or a doctor.
The one who is assaulted is at the behest of the one in power and is hesitant to say anything because he/she is embarrassed and wonders if they somehow brought it on themselves. And they are confronted with the reality that they may not be believed.
Many women experience being molested by their father or worse, the lover of their mother. Too many of those women have reported that their mothers didn’t believe them. That disbelief is a source of inordinate spiritual and emotional pain.
In the case of Kavanaugh, there are several reasons why the young Christine Blasey would have remained silent. She may have been afraid to tell her parents she had been at the party in question. How many of us have defied our parents and snuck off somewhere or done something without their knowledge? Most of us have that testimony.
Then there is the young Brett Kavanaugh. It is not beyond the realm of possibility that he was at that same party, doing the “boys will be boys” thing, drinking way too much and trying to have his way with a girl. That scenario is not uncommon. The onslaught of testosterone combined with too many beers has been known to be a factor in the bad behavior of young men for a long time.
What is maddening is that society in general has allowed men to sexually assault women. Being sexually aggressive helps men define their “manhood,” and they allow little to nothing to get in the way of that definition.
Women who are raped have been threatened – by their accoster and by society – to not challenge what was done to them. Women historically have gotten little to no support by the legal system.
Those who believe in male sexual supremacy, like those who believe in and practice white supremacy, have the attitude that they are entitled to do what they want to their prey. Both sexual and racial supremacists dehumanize those whom they attack.